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Not Everything Meant for Others Is Meant for You

becoming blog discomfort mental health personal growth self awareness yoga Apr 26, 2026

Something has shifted inside me.

Have you ever had that feeling? Where you no longer accept certain behaviours, where you can’t quite put your finger on what you’re feeling, you just know it’s different, even if you can’t yet name it.

This shift isn’t on the surface, and it doesn’t feel like a passing thought or a fleeting moment of clarity, but something deeper — something that has reached right down into the way I think, the way I move, and the way I meet myself in the quiet spaces. It feels cellular, like every part of me is being asked to pay attention in a way I haven’t before.

And with that awareness has most certainly been discomfort.

The kind that doesn’t just sit in the body during a pose, but the kind that asks you to turn inward and face the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding, those parts of you that carry shame, guilt, embarrassment, or uncertainty. The parts that were never wrong, just a way to protect your peace — at the time. The parts that once kept you safe, but no longer serve the version of you you’re becoming.

Yoga has always been described as a journey of the self, through the self, to the self.

And I’m feeling that more now than ever.

Because this work… it isn’t just about how we move our bodies. It’s about how we sit with what arises — physically, emotionally, mentally — and whether we choose to soften into it, or continue to move away from it, or push it down to the depths until it rises it's ugly head again. And it will, it always does. 

Lately, I’ve been noticing not just my thoughts, but my actions, and even more than that, the way I treat myself. The language I use internally and externally. The expectations I place on myself, and the expectations I feel from others. The quiet negotiations I make between what I feel and what I think I “should” be doing.

For a long time, I’ve been a “yes” person.

Not always in the obvious ways, and not so much in the past 6 months, but enough to recognise the pattern. Saying yes to opportunities, to ideas, to possibilities — not always from a place of grounded certainty, but often from a place of inspiration, emotion, and mixed with something else… a subtle fear of missing out, a desire to not let something pass me by, a quiet belief that maybe this is the thing I should be doing.

And what I see now, with a little more honesty, is that those decisions — while they were mine — didn’t always come from a place of deep self-trust.

They came from being inspired by others, by what they were creating, by how they were living, by what I perceived as success… and somewhere in that, I would feel the pull to move in that direction too.

Not because it was wrong — but because I hadn’t fully anchored into myself first.

Because when your foundation of self-trust is unsteady, even the most exciting opportunities can quietly become reactions rather than aligned choices.

And that’s a confronting thing to sit with.

But also… a freeing one.

Because what I’ve started to notice is that in those moments of inspiration, I’ve often been looking at the finish line, where those people are now, not the path that got them there. I’ve been drawn to the outcome, the energy, the expansion… without always slowing down enough to understand, or see the steps, the timing, or whether that path was even mine to walk.

And that’s where something has shifted.

I’ve begun to see inspiration differently.

Not as something I need to chase or become… but as something that shows me what’s possible.

I came across this through Mel Robbins in her book The Let Them Theory, and it landed in a way I hadn’t quite been able to put into words before. It was one of those moments where you realise you've heard this all before, but until you were ready to really hear it, it hits differently. When you hear it now, it really lands, and it lands HARD. It shatters what you though you knew and challenges you to think and act differently. To rebuild from a place of certainty and unwavering faith and trust in yourself. 

That when we stop seeing other people as something to measure ourselves against, and instead allow them to be a reflection of possibility… something changes.

Comparison shifts. It becomes a teacher, not a threat.

Because other people aren’t taking anything away from you — they’re showing you what could exist, in your own way, on your own timeline.

And for me, that has brought up another layer of truth.

How often I’ve listened to the noise around me — the opinions, the expectations, the subtle comments that create a sense of guilt or doubt around the way I choose to move in my business, in my life.

And how easily, in those moments, I’ve handed my power over.

So I’ve made a conscious decision.

To let them.

To let people have their opinions, to question, to not understand, to see things differently - and so they should. Not everyone will meet you where you are, they will only meet you where they are in their own path.

And just as importantly… to let me be me, unapologetically. 

To trust that I am allowed to pause. That I am allowed to start over. That I can change direction when something no longer feels right. That I am allowed to outgrow what once felt aligned. I love the song in Moana 2, by Matangi - at first she comes across as the villian, controlling the bats in the story, in time you come to learn that she is in fact Moana's ally. The song; "There's always another way." 

Because there is nothing wrong with changing directions, rebuilding, because there is always another way.

In fact, I believe it’s one of the most important parts of creating something sustainable.

To pause. To reflect. To clear out what no longer fits.

So that what you build next isn’t just a continuation of the past… but a stronger, more aligned version of who you are now.

And maybe this speaks to something in you too.

Where you’ve been saying yes without checking in.
Where you’ve been measuring yourself against someone else’s path.
Where you’ve been holding onto something simply because you think you “should.”

What would it look like to pause?

Not as a step backwards… but as a way of moving forward with intention.

 

With everything shifting internally, and with the very real changes happening in our personal life right now as we prepare to move on from Longreach, this season is going to look a little different.

Not because I’m closing things down, but because I’m choosing to create space to reassess — to look at my business, the way I offer, and the foundations I’ve built, and ask whether they truly support the direction I’m moving in.

Because this isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what matters, well.

 

Over the past week, I also sent out a survey.

And it brought me back to something I needed to remember.

It’s very easy to get caught up in the “doing” of business — the classes, the planning, the behind-the-scenes, the need for cashflow — and somewhere along the way, you can lose sight of the deeper why.

This work has never just been about me.

It’s about you.

And the responses I received reflected that in a way I didn’t expect.

The insights shared, the challenges being navigated, the honesty in the responses… it’s given me such a clear and grounded understanding of what is actually needed in our community — and what I’ve been avoiding seeing.

90.9% of people shared that their mental wellbeing has been supported through these experiences.

And that shone a light on something I’ve always known, but perhaps hadn’t fully allowed myself to stand in.

That this work matters.

Because when our mental health is supported, everything in life becomes a little easier to hold.

What’s being created here is bigger than a class.

It’s connection, and support.
It’s a space to feel, to be seen, to breathe, to come back to what matters.

And I don’t take that lightly.

I will continue to listen, to gather insight, and to advocate — not just for this work, but for the people it supports.

Because not everyone knows what they need yet.

And not everyone feels ready to step into spaces like this.

There is no judgement in that.

Avoidance isn’t failure. It’s often protection… or simply not yet being ready to see what’s there.

But sometimes, what we avoid is also what we most need. 

If you've ever been to one of my classes, read my emails, blogs, I encourage you to fill out the survey. Every single one of your voices matter. Numbers don't lie. 

You can find the link to the survey here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScpWFfZUhR9vckgv1QUqIW1HvoK2H_OrR-qciv503bBMGscYw/viewform?usp=dialog


As this next chapter unfolds, there will be a natural pause and reshaping behind the scenes.

Not an ending, it's a recalibration.

Because every chapter has its place, and every ending holds the beginning of something new.

And if you’re in a season of your own where things feel like they’re shifting, uncertain, or asking you to slow down…

Please don’t ever question whether you can start over — that you’re too old, too inexperienced, or that it’s too late.

Life begins the moment you make the decision to choose yourself.

You’re not behind, You’re just being asked to listen more closely.

Peta Ann ✨

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